“When you point a finger at others, three fingers point back at you.” – Holy Bible
The source of any problem is within you and hence you are responsible for all that you experience. It is wise not to blame others for your miseries.
I was counselling a student who was in the process of a divorce. He felt humiliated that his wife made false allegations against him and dragged him to court for one reason or the other. He was quite distressed that his children were also kept away from him. Indeed this is very painful, but you have to look at the whole picture. If you had inflicted pain on someone in the past and did not balance this negative karma, you would have to settle it now. You have to pay your ‘debts’ anyway, and the current crisis is just a means to reconcile it. Situations are often created to simply balance your karma.
People who make you suffer most are often the ones who are close to you. They are not entirely responsible for this as they are simply returning what you had given them in the past. So, even if they act unreasonably, they are quite reasonable in some way.
Do not point your finger at others. Instead, you may use the ‘thumbs-up’ sign and silently affirm: “I am responsible for this.” This will remind you of the ‘lessons’ to learn and the ‘debts’ you need to pay, and balance your karma with people. However, take proper action as the situation demands. And, if need be, you may even resort to legal help. Follow spirituality at the soul level, but practicality at the physical level. The key is: “act, but do not react. ‘
You can work on your karma and heal past wounds by practising the meditations listed in Chapter Five. When you heal the past, the present will get better by itself.
Extract from the book “Secrets of Karma” by Vee Jay Attri
