Whatever you give out will come back to you. Hate, and you will receive hate in return. When you fill yourself with inharmonious thoughts and emotions, you are destroying yourself. Why hate or be angry with anyone? Love your enemies. Why stew in the heat of anger? If you become riled, get over it at once. Take a walk, count to ten to fifteen, or divert your mind to something pleasant. Let go of the desire to retaliate. When you are angry your brain is overheating, your heart is having valve trouble, your whole body is being devitalised. Exude peace and goodness; because that is the nature of the image of God within you- your true nature. Then no one can disturb you.
Whenever you are jealous, you are in collusion with the cosmic delusion of Satan. Whenever you are angry, Satam is guiding you…Any time the voice of jealousy, fear, or anger speaks, remember that it is not your voice, and command that it gone. But you will not be able to expel that evil, no matter how you try, so long as you give that negative feeling a safe harbor in your mind. Eradicate jealousy, fear and anger from within, so that every time an evil impulse tells you to hate and to hurt, another stronger voice within tells you to love and to forgive. Listen to that voice.
Jealousy comes from an inferiority complex, and expresses itself through suspicion and fear. It signifies that a person is afraid he cannot hold his own in his relationships with others, be they conjugal, filial, social. If you feel you have cause to be jealous of someone- for example, if you are afraid that the one you love is transferring his or her own attention to another- first strive to understand if there is something lacking within yourself. Improve yourself; develop yourself. The only way to hold on to the affection or respect of another is to apply the law of love and to merit that recognition by self improvement… Fulfillment lies in constantly improving yourself so that instead of your seeking others, others will seek you.
Even while striving to improve yourself, learn to stand alone, secure in your own virtues and self worth. If you want others to believe in you, remember, it isn’t only your words that have an effect, but what you are and what you feel within- what is in your soul. Always strive to be an angel within, no matter how others behave. Be sincere, kind, loving, and understanding.
When someone comes to you in anger, remain in charge of yourself. “I will not lose my temper. I will keep on expressing calmness until his feeling changes.”
When a loved one tries our patience beyond endurance, we should retire to a quiet place, lock the door, practise some physical exercise, and then quiet ourselves in the following way: Sit in a straight chair, with spine erect; slowly inhale and exhale, twelve times. Then deeply affirm mentally, ten times or more: “Father, Thou art harmony. Let me reflect Thy harmony. Harmonise my error-stricken dear one.” One should affirm this until he feels, through thr deep sense of peace and calm assurance falling upon him, that God has heard him and has answered.
Extract from the book “Where There Is Light” by Sri Sri Paramahansa Yogananda.
